For most people our self-talk about ourselves (our unconscious dialogue) usually leans towards the negatives. I’m too short, I’m too fat, I’m un-fit, I can’t do that, I haven’t got a good memory etc. etc. These thoughts, together with others given to us over the years by parents, family, teachers and our peers may well have contributed to create the self-limiting beliefs we have about ourselves.
Thinking in a positive way about our attributes may only happen when filling in a job application! But it doesn’t have to be this way. By using affirmations to change your self-talk to positive, uplifting statements you can change your mindset and manifest good things into your life.
What is an affirmation?
Affirmations are powerful statements that can help to transform your life. The word affirmation comes from the word affirm. The Collins English dictionary definition is……
If you affirm that something is true or that something exists, you state firmly and publicly that it is true or exists.
What can they do?
Affirmations help you to quickly move your mindset to focus on positive aspects of yourself. They help you to manifest into your reality what you want and who you want to be. Affirmations remind you that nothing is impossible – if you think you can you can, if you think you can’t you can’t.
They help you to create positive self-belief statements that tell your subconscious mind that these positive statements are real for you right now. They move you to take actions to achieve the things you’ve stated you’re capable of.
Creating your own affirmations
Create your own, powerful affirmations that will change your self-belief and create a positive mindset around who you are and what you want to achieve by following these three steps.
Who are you?
It’s good to start your affirmations with the words I, I am or my. This tells your subconscious mind that this is happening now and that this is your current reality. If starting with I, I am or my doesn’t work for your affirmation then have them somewhere in your affirmation. This affirmation is what you believe to be true about yourself now.
What do you have, what do you want?
State what you have, what you want or what you want to happen. If you don’t believe the statement then it’s not going to move you to think this is truly you or you are capable of this. Keep it positive and don’t include phrases such as I don’t, I’m stopping, I won’t, I’m not, or I can’t. Personally, I find short affirmations work better for me; they’re easier for me to remember and they are straight to the point.
What’s the emotional tie?
Having positive emotions as to why you want it will help you to believe that your affirmation is achievable. Ask yourself, how will I feel if this were true for me? If you can’t feel an emotion then change the wording of your affirmation until it feels real and invokes positive emotions.
To increase its vibrational energy:-
- Say your affirmation EVERY day out loud. Repetition allows your subconscious mind to believe that this statement is a true and real reflection of you. Repeat as often as you like throughout the day.
- Do something physically empowering when saying it – stand tall, punch the air, look yourself in the eye in a mirror etc.
- Say it with conviction and really feel the emotions that led you to write this affirmation.
Sharon lives with her partner Geoff in Warwickshire and they have two adult children. She worked for over 25 years in an office environment, gaining qualifications to degree level in finance, business and management. While there she witnessed and experienced many stressful situations and suffered illnesses which were stress related.
Sharon was advised to make some changes to her lifestyle which included trying complementary therapies. After experiencing the benefits of complementary treatments, she decided to retrain and to share her knowledge and experiences to help others recognise and manage their own physical and emotional stress and anxiety levels.
Sharon has been working as a complementary therapist for over 12 years now, and she loves helping people to feel uplifted, focused, positive and empowered about their lives.